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As a personal stylist for women, I spend a great deal of timing helping each client ensure that her overall look not only communicates her authentic personal style, flatters her shape and reflects her values; but also that her pieces are functional for her life. Here in Seattle, it’s easy to sacrifice style for comfort, but that’s really not necessary.

If it’s time to shop for your upcoming holiday party, be sure to opt for pieces that flatter your frame and communicate your style. Now, let’s dive into how we’ll make sure you are comfortable, too.

5 WAYS TO FEEL AS GOOD AS YOU LOOK AT THE HOLIDAY PARTY

1. FOCUS ON YOUR FEET.

Depending on your perspective, you interpreted this one as, "your shoes make the outfit" or "make sure you wear comfortable shoes." I meant both. Beautiful shoes get a great deal of attention when out socializing, so take this opportunity to get some warm fuzzies from your friends and co-workers by wearing a pair that make a statement. But, be sure that statement isn't, "boy, I wish I could dance but my feet hurt too much in these shoes." This isn't the prom, folks. We should all be able to wear a great shoe without complaining all night long. They need to look good enough to make an impact without ending the evening in tears.

2. WEAR SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE EXCITED ABOUT.

It doesn't matter how many compliments you receive if you don't feel good about what you are wearing. Like suits? Try a coordinated set made for parties. If you are going for a new dress or jumpsuit, make sure it's the one that flatters your body, is functional for the evening and makes you feel like the best dressed person in the room (or at least in the top 3). Looking for a sustainable option? Try wearing something you already own and styling it differently from the last time you wore it or buy a new accessory to take it in another direction. Often a pair of statement earrings or a cocktail ring paired with styling your hair in an unexpected way can bring new life to an existing outfit. Consider renting or borrowing something you've long admired from a friend. Shopping last minute? I love Prism. Velouria and re-souL for unique accessories.

3. MAKE AN IMPACT. 

Do you really want to be just one of the lovely ladies in the room in a nice little black dress? Take advantage of this opportunity to wear something that communicates who you are. Whether it is your jewelry (from a local maker or a company you believe in, perhaps?), your dress (how about vintage inspired or from a BIPOC designer?) or your shoes (we've covered this one), people should have a glimpse into who you are thanks to your ensemble.  Remember, a statement for you could be textured pants or a silver kitten heel. It doesn't have to be loud to be a statement. It just needs to be authentic to you and feel expressive.

4. CONSIDER THE TEMPERATURE

The most incredible dress in the world cannot stand up to a subpar sweater thrown over the top of it. Please take a moment to consider that you only look good if you feel good. And, if you are freezing or if your feet hurt, you will not be feeling good. Might I make a few suggestions? I often find that a scarf is enough to keep me warm and still allow my outfit to take center stage. How about upping the game by wearing a faux fur scarf? Another option is to try a lightweight leather jacket that can be paired nicely with a  bold skirt or pants. As you can see from this post, velvet is the look of the season, so consider a velvet blazer. A sheer fitted bolero feels appropriate for most situations and also has an element of sex appeal. When shopping, I also like to keep my eyes peeled for dresses, tops and jumpsuits with sleeves to avoid this situation all together. One more hint- consider a maxi skirt or ball skirt. They keep you warm and look amazing. More on that here. 

5. ABOVE ALL, MAKE SURE YOU LOOK LIKE… YOU.

For those of us who made it to our high school proms, it's not uncommon to also remember feeling uncomfortable or out of place in over the top outfits. In contrast, a wedding dress is about as formal as many women ever get and I have yet to hear someone say they didn't feel beautiful in theirs. The lesson here is to find that happy medium. You should take advantage of this (dare I say?) rare opportunity to wear something super dressy, feminine and fun. Don't be afraid to wade out of your comfort zone. But, in the end, you should feel like the best version of yourself, not a subpar version of someone else. 

Let the party begin!